We are not God

For years I tried a million differnt ways, and million different times to break my addictions. Then one day while I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired, I went to my bed, laid down, and whispered, "God, it's been a long time, and I don't know if I'm doing this right, but...." Yep, it ended there. That's all I remember for hours. I went into the presence of the Holy Spirit, and recieved the power to quit smoking and drinking with those simple words.

Sounds easy doesn't it? It may not be easy, but when you rely on the power of God, instead of trying to be God, I assure you that it WILL be an easier trip on the road to recovery. We have to stop trying to do this alone. When you do it alone, it's almost like you're trying to make yourself God rather than relying on God. Let go, let God, and remember:

Be still, and know that I am God.Psalm 46:10

We need to be reminded that we are not God.

This seems pretty basic. You wouldn't think it would be hard to remember.
But we get so caught up in proving ourselves by performing, achieving and
rescuing that we forget that we are humans with real limits. We fill our
time so full of frenzied activity that there is no 'stillness'. And when
there is no stillness, it is hard to remember who is God and who is not.


Fortunately, God does not forget who is God and who is not. God invites us
to quiet ourselves, to slow ourselves down. God invites us to be still long
enough to regain perspective. "Be still", God says, "and
know that I am God."


In the stillness we can see again that there is a difference between our
frenzy and God's kingdom. It is God's work to provide and protect and rescue.
It is not our work. We can do our part. But our part needs to be respectful
of our human limits. Our part needs to actively acknowledge our dependence
on God. God is God, and we are not.


Help me to slow down, Lord.
Help me to be quiet.
Help me to be still long enough to remember that you are God.
Help me to remember who is creature and who is Creator.
Let this truth free me, Lord, to accept my limits,
Amen.

Praying that we all realize our source of breaking an addiction,
Pastor Mike

The Emotional Dimension of Recovery

A. The importance of emotional self-awareness

In a 1992 SRI Gallup study, commissioned by the Knox Area Rescue Ministry, six critical "life themes" were identified in the lives of people who recovered from homelessness. Among the most important was the “Self-Awareness “ theme, which they described in this manner:

Persons who are high on the Self-Awareness theme are in touch with their own emotions. They can name the feelings that are surging through themselves… As they grow, they can discuss their emotions with other people and they will tend to express them to other people rather than keep them inside. Then, they can talk about how they feel about their own life and its hurts; they can say that and then ask for help in making the corrections. They can own the bad things that have happened to them in their life, and they can know the good feelings that they want to achieve.

Those lacking emotional self-awareness tended to be patently unmotivated. They have little that excites them either positively or negatively. If they have feelings, they are confusing rather than something that drive them to action.”

B. The affect of troubled families on emotional health

A large percentage of homeless addicts grew up with an addicted or dysfunctional parent. As children they experienced inconsistency, chaos, fear, abandonment, denial, and real or potential violence. In this environment they learned to survive by suppressing their emotions. They were told that their perceptions were wrong and that their feelings are not acceptable. The rules of troubled families, according to Claudia Black in her book It Will Never Happen to Me are "don't trust, don't feel, don't talk." The result is constricted emotions, especially in the areas of intimacy, tenderness, and sexuality. It is no surprise that these children are eight times more likely become addicts themselves

C. The impact of addiction on emotional health

The first step down the road to addiction is the use of mood-altering chemicals to manage one’s emotions --- especially the heavy ones like self-doubt, anger guilt, fear, and grief. Emotions cannot be “compartmentalized.” If undesirable feelings are suppressed by drinking or drugging, addicts also lose touch with the desirable ones as. This condition has sometimes been called“ “living life from the neck up.” When an individual has lost touch with his or her emotional life, all of life becomes a frustrating endeavor to figure things out without the vital signals that come from our feelings.

D. Emotional dysfunction and the development of denial

The abuse of alcohol or drugs always leads to painful consequences like being fired from a job because of failure to show up after drinking binges. Marriages break up and relationships with other loved ones are destroyed. They experience car wrecks and health problems. Such consequences normally cause people with healthy emotions to take stock of their lives --and to make changes in their behavior to avoid experiencing them in the future. But, for addicts, instead of changing their behavior, they use drugs and alcohol even more to dull the uncomfortable feelings they produce! They intellectualize and rationalize their behavior and shift the blame off themselves and on to other people.

When God created man in His own image, He created us with intellectual capacity, a free will, and emotions. These three, together, constitute what the Bible calls “the soul.” As we exercise our free will in day to day decisions, what we end up doing is usually based more upon our emotional perceptions than upon our intellect. Even the less desirable feelings, like anger, fear, and guilt are necessary for an accurate view of reality - and are intended by God to spur us to action. Suppressing them with alcohol and drugs is a big part of the addict’s distorted perception of reality we call “denial.”

E. The journey toward emotional well being

For addicts, discontinuing the use of alcohol and/or drugs to manage their emotions is the first step. They need to start feeling the feelings. This can be an extremely painful experience for people who have been working overtime to avoid them. Still this is no guarantee that they will recover emotionally. Too often, addicts compulsively engage in other activities, like work, to continue avoiding and managing their feelings.